This week, our guest is David Wraith, the co-founder of Sex Positive St. Louis. We have had him on before. In this episode, he talks with us a little bit about the death of his wife last year and the support he found in the polyamorous community. We also talk about #metoo, BDSM, mommy issues, pissing (water sports), male chastity, sex work, and the beautiful older women he has sexual relationships with. In one story, he tells us about his sexual relationship with Betty Dodson, an 89 year old woman. She is well known among sex educators for manually teaching women to orgasm that had never experienced it. We hope you enjoy this week's episode.

David Wraith is a street walking cheetah with a heart full of napalm, he is "The Do You Guru," and "The Hardest Working Man in Ho Business." He is co-founder of Sex Positive St. Louis and the HNIC at Planet Wraith 

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About Us:

www.aboutsexpodcast.com 

Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. Her second book released in February. Joshua is not a therapist. He is an author and writer and brings a sense of humor along with an inquisitive mind.

Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed. at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

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About our Guest:

Our guest today is Barry McCarthy, PhD. A presenter at professional workships and professor at American University, McCarthy is the author of fourteen books, including Coping with Erectile Dysfunction: How to Regain Confidence and Enjoy Great Sex and Coping with Premature Ejaculation: How to Overcome PE, Please Your Partner & Have Great Sex. We talk about Erectile Dysfunction, the Good Enough Sex model, Rekindling Desire, Sexual Styles, and much more.

About Us:

www.aboutsexpodcast.com 

Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. Her second book released in February. Joshua is not a therapist. He is an author and writer and brings a sense of humor along with an inquisitive mind.

Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed. at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

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Join me today for an interview with author Angela Skurtu. Angela is a licensed marriage therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. She is also the co-host of the About Sex Podcast! I knew she sounded familiar. Today, we discuss her book, Helping Couples Overcome Infidelity: A Therapist's Manual. In it, she shares all the trade secrets of how she guides people through the theraputic process. We also discuss how an infidelity can sometimes save a failing marriage. Yes, really. A common side-effect of a betrayal is a revitalization of your sex life by forcing the conflict out in the open, making a couple deal with their problems. This can create a territorial sexual response. Angela does not suggest infidelity as a fix to a failing marriage or sex life, but gives some great alternatives in our interview.

I also ask her if she ever cheated on her husband. Yes, I actually asked that. I am so incorrigible... Tune in to find out her answer and get all the salacious details!

-Josh

About Us:

www.aboutsexpodcast.com 

Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. Her second book released in February. Joshua is not a therapist. He is an author and writer and brings a sense of humor along with an inquisitive mind.

Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed. at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

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Sex Addiction isn't real. Sex is real. Porn is real. Some other words that are real include diversity, fetus, vulnerable, science-based, evidence-based, entitlement, and transgender. Yes, transgendered people are real. This week it seems the Trump administration decided that these seven words don’t exist and should not be used by the CDC. Whether or not this ban is real, political leaders have been doing this as long as we have had scientific research.

Misinformation about reality, or the censoring of reality, can be harmful. Myths about sex can make it difficult for people to feel normal in their sexuality. If they are told that their biological urges are sinful or weird, they can feel a split between sex and themselves. They can see sex as something outside the normal human experience or even outside of their own control. If we as humans label something as uncontrollable, then we may fail to even try to have control over it.

Sex addiction is not a real addiction listed in the most recent edition of the DSM, the bible of mental health diagnosis. These individual’s struggles are a failure of logic brought on by shameful views of their own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. People who self-label as sex addicts have the same amount of sex as people who do not. People who claim to have this addiction feel the need to hold themselves to a standard beyond the normal human condition. They feel amorous, they feel love, they feel horny, and yet they deny these feelings and push them down to hide and deny their own sexuality. They not only feel uncomfortable just talking about sex in a social setting, but can sometimes feel uncomfortable even discussing these topics with their sexual partners. They can literally be having sex with their partner and feel super uncomfortable just discussing birth control and condom usage.

Our guest today is clinical psychologist Dr. David J. Ley, Ph.D. and the author of the books Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure, The Myth of Sex Addiction and Insatiable Wives. I also just found out he has a black belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. What the hell? That's awesome. To me, he sounds like the Jason Bourne of the clinical psychology world, saving people from myths and misinformation about sex and relationships. Our discussion with him covers the myths of sex addiction, porn, the CDC’s list of banned words, and so much more.

 

David J. Ley PhD (@DrDavidLey) on Twitter

About Us:

Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. She is a published author, with her second book releasing in February.

About Sex now livestreams episodes on Facebook a week before the podcast episodes come out. Check us out at our new YouTube Channel. // Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com // Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed., a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

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The Republican party decided this year that they are okay with pedophiles representing them in the Senate. Roy Moore lost the race yesterday for the Alabama Senate seat by only 1.5%. Many of the people in Alabama that voted for Moore may see pedophiles as the worst of the worst, but they also see Democrats as somehow an even lower form of human life. Ugh, Democrats. Such a dirty thing. It brings to mind words like liberal, social justice, or *gasp* even diversity and inclusion. What depravity this world hath wrought!

 The sitting President of the United States, Donald Trump, even openly supported this accused pedophile for the Alabama Senate race and directed the Republican National Party to send as much funding his way. He wanted to ensure as much as he could that this accused pedophile made it into office, no matter how many children were destroyed in Moore’s wake.

Somehow, in our topsy-turvy world, the Republicans see pedophiles as a crucially important demographic that they don’t want to lose. They will do anything and everything within their will to ensure all those pedophiles stick with the Republican party, so that they don’t to lose those sweet, sweet pedophile votes to another party.

After we discuss Roy Moore and the wonderful pedophile laden dystopia that is the Republican party’s vision for the future, we have a very special guest on to discuss LGBTQIA+ advocacy. Our guest this week is Jaimie Hilemann, a Trans and LGBTQIA+ advocate and educator.  For those that do not know what all those letters mean, they stand for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans, Queer or Questioning, Intersex, Asexual, and plus. The plus is a way to leave it open for inclusion of people that do not fall into these categories. We discuss education, myths about trans people, transitioning, and non-pliments (Compliments that can be insulting or off-putting).

We learned a lot about transgendered individuals and hope you can join us for this week’s episode.

About Our Guest:

Jaimie Hilemann

After 24 years in the corporate world, from key account sales, sales training, to
sales- management, Jaimie felt the need as a Trans woman to advocate and speak
out for Trans and LGBTQIA+ issues. First volunteering with MTUG (Metro
Trans Umbrella Group), in St. Louis, she eventually became Board President and
still collaborates with MTUG today.
Aware of rapidly changing needs in the Trans community, she began consulting
as a Trans Cultural Competency Educator, including educational and training
consulting under contract with DAP (Diversity Awareness Partnership).
Realizing the need for full-time Trans and LGBTQIA+ focused advocacy, Jaimie
formally founded the Trans Education Service LLC of St. Louis (TES LLC STL)
in order to expand opportunities to educate regarding issues critical to the
community. TES is both a Trans and LGBTQIA+ cultural competency
educational and training consultancy, and a consulting partner for diversity and
inclusion policy, planning and implementation.
Jaimie is a member of WPATH, with GEI (Global Education Initiative), training,
and also a professional member of AASECT, the American Association of
Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists.

About Us:

Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. She is a published author, with her second book releasing in February.

About Sex now livestreams episodes on Facebook a week before the podcast episodes come out. Check us out at our new YouTube Channel. // Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com // Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed., a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

Also, we have facebooks and twitters and all that stuff, but if you read this far i seriously doubt you have time to read any more.

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I have never once seen a bird have sex with a bee, yet when I was a child, sex education heralded this fact all around the country. Birds were banging bees. Bees were banging birds. Adults made it the spearhead of any conversation about discussing sexuality with their children. I took great pains after that to follow bees and birds around to try to observe this marvel of modern sex education. Despite all my tracking, all my days spent climbing trees and watching birds, all I got was splinters. I never once saw a bee even try to land a bird.  As an adult, I think I understand it better now. The adults using this archaic metaphor harbored too much shame about sex to openly discuss it with anyone, much less their own children. We hide sex. We shut down conversations about sexuality. We label clinical terms about sex, such as masturbation or vagina, as taboo or “bad words,” things to never discuss, even around impolite company. We even lie to our own children about our own sex lives in the hopes they will not emulate any bad decisions, but this just means they aren’t able to learn anything from us, including how to avoid any pitfalls or mistakes we made in our own sex lives.

              There once was a day when your good old dad and mom took a little roll in the hay, and amazingly enough so did their parents, your grandparents. Sex is a part of every adult’s life, no matter the age. Most of us grow up shielded from the sex lives of the previous generations, and this isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Your children do not need to know the intimate details of your sex life, but when we hide the fact that we even have sex from the younger generations it teaches them that it is something to hide and be ashamed about in the first place. Sex is a part of normal human biology, just like breathing, eating, defecating, and childbirth.

              Today we discuss aging and sexuality with our guest, sex therapist Angela Schubert. We also cover nursing homes, eating disorders, sexual trauma, and a few other topics.

 About our Guest:

Angela Schubert works at Crossroads Counseling, LLC and is a full time professor and director at Central Methodist University

Angie Schubert has a PhD in Counselor Education and supervision and a Masters
degree in mental health counseling from the University of Missouri St. Louis. She
also received a gender studies certificate in 2015 from University Missouri St.
Louis. And she did her undergraduate work at Illinois College and received a
bachelors degree in psychology. Dr. Schubert directs the clinical counseling
masters program at Central Methodist University and is a private practitioner at
Crossroads Counseling.

Angie served as the state chair for the American Association of sex educators
counselors and therapist from 2007 until 2016. Her passion has always focused on
aging sexual expression in nursing homes and her dissertation looked at the
experiences of older adults who resided in the nursing home and the presence of
aging sexual expression in nursing homes.

About Us:

Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. She is a published author, with her second book releasing in February.

We are now livestreaming episodes on youtube a week before the podcast episodes come out. If you just can't wait to listen, the livestream goes out a week before the podcast releases. Check us out at our new YouTube Channel.

Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com

Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed, a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

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