Kendra Holiday and David Wraith co-founded Sex Positive St. Louis. This group helps individuals around St. Louis find each other for events and education about sexual and relationship health.

Links to Find Sex Positive St. Louis:

https://plus.google.com/+SexPositiveSTL

@SexPositiveSTL on Twitter

Links to Find Kendra:

www.beopenandhonest.com

www.thebeautifulkind.com

@TBK365 on Twitter

Links to Find David:

https://davidwraith.com/

@DavidWraith on Twitter

About Us:

www.aboutsexpodcast.com 

Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. Her second book released in February. Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed. at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

Emily is a queer bisexual feminist, a holistic mental health therapist specialized in treating trauma, a sex educator, a lady arm wrestler, a writer and she is passionate about making space for truth telling.

Website: EmilyKotheCounseling.com
www.SexSTL.com
Instagram @EmilyKothe_Counseling

About Us:

www.aboutsexpodcast.com 

Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. Her second book released in February. Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed. at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

In today's episode, Christina Meneses joins us. She is a representative from the YWCA and we cover how sexual health and disability intersect. In her work, she advocates for people with disabilities to have happy, healthy sex lives.

Christina has worked in the field of abuse prevention for more than 20 years. She spent much of that time doing traditional abuse prevention presentations in the St. Louis area. In the last 5 years with SHADE she has provided relationship and sexuality education to individuals with disabilities, agencies that they might encounter, and parents and guardians.

Website URL:  www.ywcastlouis.org

Facebook URL: YWCA Metro St. Louis

This is www.aboutsexpodcast.com. To visit Angela Skurtu as a Therapist, you can go to www.therapistinstlouis.com. Thank you for listening.

Sex Addiction isn't real. Sex is real. Porn is real. Some other words that are real include diversity, fetus, vulnerable, science-based, evidence-based, entitlement, and transgender. Yes, transgendered people are real. This week it seems the Trump administration decided that these seven words don’t exist and should not be used by the CDC. Whether or not this ban is real, political leaders have been doing this as long as we have had scientific research.

Misinformation about reality, or the censoring of reality, can be harmful. Myths about sex can make it difficult for people to feel normal in their sexuality. If they are told that their biological urges are sinful or weird, they can feel a split between sex and themselves. They can see sex as something outside the normal human experience or even outside of their own control. If we as humans label something as uncontrollable, then we may fail to even try to have control over it.

Sex addiction is not a real addiction listed in the most recent edition of the DSM, the bible of mental health diagnosis. These individual’s struggles are a failure of logic brought on by shameful views of their own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. People who self-label as sex addicts have the same amount of sex as people who do not. People who claim to have this addiction feel the need to hold themselves to a standard beyond the normal human condition. They feel amorous, they feel love, they feel horny, and yet they deny these feelings and push them down to hide and deny their own sexuality. They not only feel uncomfortable just talking about sex in a social setting, but can sometimes feel uncomfortable even discussing these topics with their sexual partners. They can literally be having sex with their partner and feel super uncomfortable just discussing birth control and condom usage.

Our guest today is clinical psychologist Dr. David J. Ley, Ph.D. and the author of the books Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure, The Myth of Sex Addiction and Insatiable Wives. I also just found out he has a black belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. What the hell? That's awesome. To me, he sounds like the Jason Bourne of the clinical psychology world, saving people from myths and misinformation about sex and relationships. Our discussion with him covers the myths of sex addiction, porn, the CDC’s list of banned words, and so much more.

 

David J. Ley PhD (@DrDavidLey) on Twitter

About Us:

Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. She is a published author, with her second book releasing in February.

About Sex now livestreams episodes on Facebook a week before the podcast episodes come out. Check us out at our new YouTube Channel. // Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com // Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed., a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

Also, we have facebooks and twitters and all that stuff, but if you read this far i seriously doubt you have time to read any more.

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The Republican party decided this year that they are okay with pedophiles representing them in the Senate. Roy Moore lost the race yesterday for the Alabama Senate seat by only 1.5%. Many of the people in Alabama that voted for Moore may see pedophiles as the worst of the worst, but they also see Democrats as somehow an even lower form of human life. Ugh, Democrats. Such a dirty thing. It brings to mind words like liberal, social justice, or *gasp* even diversity and inclusion. What depravity this world hath wrought!

 The sitting President of the United States, Donald Trump, even openly supported this accused pedophile for the Alabama Senate race and directed the Republican National Party to send as much funding his way. He wanted to ensure as much as he could that this accused pedophile made it into office, no matter how many children were destroyed in Moore’s wake.

Somehow, in our topsy-turvy world, the Republicans see pedophiles as a crucially important demographic that they don’t want to lose. They will do anything and everything within their will to ensure all those pedophiles stick with the Republican party, so that they don’t to lose those sweet, sweet pedophile votes to another party.

After we discuss Roy Moore and the wonderful pedophile laden dystopia that is the Republican party’s vision for the future, we have a very special guest on to discuss LGBTQIA+ advocacy. Our guest this week is Jaimie Hilemann, a Trans and LGBTQIA+ advocate and educator.  For those that do not know what all those letters mean, they stand for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans, Queer or Questioning, Intersex, Asexual, and plus. The plus is a way to leave it open for inclusion of people that do not fall into these categories. We discuss education, myths about trans people, transitioning, and non-pliments (Compliments that can be insulting or off-putting).

We learned a lot about transgendered individuals and hope you can join us for this week’s episode.

About Our Guest:

Jaimie Hilemann

After 24 years in the corporate world, from key account sales, sales training, to
sales- management, Jaimie felt the need as a Trans woman to advocate and speak
out for Trans and LGBTQIA+ issues. First volunteering with MTUG (Metro
Trans Umbrella Group), in St. Louis, she eventually became Board President and
still collaborates with MTUG today.
Aware of rapidly changing needs in the Trans community, she began consulting
as a Trans Cultural Competency Educator, including educational and training
consulting under contract with DAP (Diversity Awareness Partnership).
Realizing the need for full-time Trans and LGBTQIA+ focused advocacy, Jaimie
formally founded the Trans Education Service LLC of St. Louis (TES LLC STL)
in order to expand opportunities to educate regarding issues critical to the
community. TES is both a Trans and LGBTQIA+ cultural competency
educational and training consultancy, and a consulting partner for diversity and
inclusion policy, planning and implementation.
Jaimie is a member of WPATH, with GEI (Global Education Initiative), training,
and also a professional member of AASECT, the American Association of
Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists.

About Us:

Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. She is a published author, with her second book releasing in February.

About Sex now livestreams episodes on Facebook a week before the podcast episodes come out. Check us out at our new YouTube Channel. // Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com // Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed., a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

Also, we have facebooks and twitters and all that stuff, but if you read this far i seriously doubt you have time to read any more.

Facebook: Angela Skurtu LMFT, M. Ed, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist // Joshua Skurtu