November 20th, 2017
I have never once seen a bird have sex with a bee, yet when I was a child, sex education heralded this fact all around the country. Birds were banging bees. Bees were banging birds. Adults made it the spearhead of any conversation about discussing sexuality with their children. I took great pains after that to follow bees and birds around to try to observe this marvel of modern sex education. Despite all my tracking, all my days spent climbing trees and watching birds, all I got was splinters. I never once saw a bee even try to land a bird. As an adult, I think I understand it better now. The adults using this archaic metaphor harbored too much shame about sex to openly discuss it with anyone, much less their own children. We hide sex. We shut down conversations about sexuality. We label clinical terms about sex, such as masturbation or vagina, as taboo or “bad words,” things to never discuss, even around impolite company. We even lie to our own children about our own sex lives in the hopes they will not emulate any bad decisions, but this just means they aren’t able to learn anything from us, including how to avoid any pitfalls or mistakes we made in our own sex lives.
There once was a day when your good old dad and mom took a little roll in the hay, and amazingly enough so did their parents, your grandparents. Sex is a part of every adult’s life, no matter the age. Most of us grow up shielded from the sex lives of the previous generations, and this isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Your children do not need to know the intimate details of your sex life, but when we hide the fact that we even have sex from the younger generations it teaches them that it is something to hide and be ashamed about in the first place. Sex is a part of normal human biology, just like breathing, eating, defecating, and childbirth.
Today we discuss aging and sexuality with our guest, sex therapist Angela Schubert. We also cover nursing homes, eating disorders, sexual trauma, and a few other topics.
About our Guest:
Angela Schubert works at Crossroads Counseling, LLC and is a full time professor and director at Central Methodist University
Angie Schubert has a PhD in Counselor Education and supervision and a Masters
degree in mental health counseling from the University of Missouri St. Louis. She
also received a gender studies certificate in 2015 from University Missouri St.
Louis. And she did her undergraduate work at Illinois College and received a
bachelors degree in psychology. Dr. Schubert directs the clinical counseling
masters program at Central Methodist University and is a private practitioner at
Crossroads Counseling.
Angie served as the state chair for the American Association of sex educators
counselors and therapist from 2007 until 2016. Her passion has always focused on
aging sexual expression in nursing homes and her dissertation looked at the
experiences of older adults who resided in the nursing home and the presence of
aging sexual expression in nursing homes.
About Us:
Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. She is a published author, with her second book releasing in February.
We are now livestreaming episodes on youtube a week before the podcast episodes come out. If you just can't wait to listen, the livestream goes out a week before the podcast releases. Check us out at our new YouTube Channel.
Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com
Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed, a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist at: www.therapistinstlouis.com
Also, we have facebooks and twitters and all that stuff, but if you read this far i seriously doubt you have time to read any more.
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November 14th, 2017
You walk into the frozen custard shop and are immediately overwhelmed by the choices. There is cherry chocolate chunk. There is cherry chunky mocha. There is mocha frappe and also plain old strawberry and vanilla. But who chooses vanilla? That would be madness. Instead, you have to find a way to sort through the seventy-five taste-bud exploding flavors.
There is no real organization of the flavors, but to make a clear decision you must somehow organize them in your head. So you sort them. Flavors with chocolate. You like chocolate, so you decide to look at those flavors. They have chocolate fudge chunk, or german chocolate, or maybe even just plain old chocolate. But that's beside the point, because you just noticed a vanilla gummy bear flavor. Who puts gummy bears in their ice cream? Doesn't that make the gummy bears hard and less, well, gummy? It kind of defeats the purpose of the candy, because part of the joy of the gummy bear is the texture itself. Its texture changes when exposed to extreme temperatures. At higher temperatures, the gummy bears melt, and at lower temperatures the gummy bears harden.
Such a mad, mad world we live in.
Why were you here again and why is that person staring at you while holding a tiny pink spoon?
Oh, that's right. Josh was desperately trying to create a metaphor that could let an audience relate to what it feels like to know absolutely nothing about childbirth and being thrust into a medical system built to extract your child from you or your partner's womb. You can walk into a hospital one day and come out with a child the next. Really, they just let you take them home. You do not know what decisions to make at the hospital. You do not know what your rights are. You do not even know if they have seventy-five flavors of frozen yogurt at this hospital. This could be a problem.
Luckily there are people like Jen Jester called "Doulas". They educate and advocate and oh so much more for their clients while they are preparing for and going through the process of childbirth.
About our Guest:
Jen Jester of Birth Wisely Doula Services – and in the near future, midwifery services!
Jen Jester is an experienced doula that has served over 300 St. Louis families over the last 13 years. Jen is currently finishing her Bachelor of Science in Midwifery, and hopes to earn her Certified Professional Midwife credential early next year. Previously, she served families as a certified childbirth educator for 6 years. Jen understands that few experiences can be as empowering and rewarding as realizing your body's full potential to bring life into the world. Jen’s clients receive customized care, and are encouraged to make informed decisions based upon their unique labor experience in the hospital, birth center, or home. Jen believes that a birthing family, during the preparation for and process of giving birth, deserve emotional and physical support, guidance, choice, advocacy, and respect.
About Us:
Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. She is a published author, with her second book releasing in February.
We are now livestreaming episodes on youtube a week before the podcast episodes come out. If you just can't wait to listen, the livestream goes out a week before the podcast releases. Check us out at our new YouTube Channel.
Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com
Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed, a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist at: www.therapistinstlouis.com
Also, we have facebooks and twitters and all that stuff, but if you read this far i seriously doubt you have time to read any more.
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October 21st, 2017
Imagine if you will, a world in which you wake up and find yourself in the body of the opposite sex. You were born a man, and have always felt a man, but you now find yourself equipped with a different set of parts. Instead of hard lines and muscles, you have soft curves and breasts. Instead of male genetalia, you now have female genetalia. This would throw most people off of their game. You would feel like you are living in someone else's skin. You would maybe even feel you own body to be something alien to you.
Transgendered people deal with this every day, and the distress it causes is called gender dysphoria. Our anonymous guest today, Sara, was born male, but identifies as a woman. Join us to hear her story and learn with us.
About Us:
Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. She is a published author, with her second book releasing in February.
We are now livestreaming episodes on youtube a week before the podcast episodes come out. If you just can't wait to listen, the livestream goes out a week before the podcast releases. Check us out at our new YouTube Channel.
Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com
Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed, a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist at: www.therapistinstlouis.com
Also, we have facebooks and twitters and all that stuff, but if you read this far i seriously doubt you have time to read any more.
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September 4th, 2017
A man can only be measured by his works, be they art, education, service to others, or hard labor in the sun. I think you can also use a ruler, tape measure, or even use a bathtub full to the brim of water. You see, when you then add the man to the water, you can catch that water and then measure the volume of the water displaced, which is the same as his volume. It's so simple! You couldn't probably measure a man with a barometer, but I know you can measure temperature as well.
Either way our guest this week is a hard working man. He is the self described "Hardest working man in Ho business", "The Do You Guru", a co-founder of Sex Positive STL, and the "HNIC" at Planet Wraith. I forgot to ask what "HNIC" meant, but I assume it means he's in charge. He actually had to pass the "Hardest working" title to someone else more recently, but I think he can reclaim that title if they wrestle or something. I'm not sure how it works, exactly. It was great meeting him and we hope you enjoy the episode.
-Josh and Angela Skurtu
About our guest:
David Wraith is a street walking cheetah with a heart full of napalm, he is "The Do You Guru," and "The Hardest Working Man in Ho Business." He is co-founder of Sex Positive St. Louis and the HNIC at Planet Wraith
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About us:
We are now livestreaming episodes on youtube a week before the podcast episodes come out. If you just can't wait to listen, check us out at our new YouTube Channel.
Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com
Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed, a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist. You can talk to her about sex or other therapy needs at: www.therapistinstlouis.com
Also, we have facebooks and twitters and all that crap, but if you read this far i seriously doubt you have time to read any more.
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August 28th, 2017
It's nice to get a massage. You feel relaxed, all the stress melts away, you sometimes fall asleep on the table and they have to poke you with a stick to get you out of there. It can be a euphoric experience with your body releasing endorphins in response to the massage, leaving you dizzy and happy as a clam. Apparently, there are people that offer a "happy ending" after one such massage, which makes for an even happier clam, which involves manual or oral stimulation of the genitals. Huh. You learn something new every day, right? Our guest today performs such work and also has a lot to share about sex education, race, and polyamory.
About out guest:
Chris has chosen to remain anonymous, but we were glad he could share his story with us. 
He is a sex worker and sex educator and, well, anonymous, so don't ask any more questions!
About us:
We are now livestreaming episodes on youtube a week before the podcast episodes come out. If you just can't wait to listen, check us out at our new YouTube Channel.
Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com
Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed, a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist. You can talk to her about sex or other therapy needs at: www.therapistinstlouis.com
Also, we have facebooks and twitters and all that crap, but if you read this far i seriously doubt you have time to read any more.
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July 9th, 2017
How can I love thee? Let me count the ways... Three? Is that all? I probably need to do better than that. Let me see, there is poking, rubbing, spitting. That's love, right?
Luckily, I'm married to a sex therapist. I'm sure she can help. This week we talk about being married to a sex therapist and we also cover how sex therapists can help us talk about sex.
About our Guest:
Monica Houttuin, LCSW, CST at Counseling Rediscovering Connections
Monica is a Couples and Intimacy Specialist, Certified Sex Therapist and Educator.
She works in private practice in Union Missouri and specializes working with couples struggling with issues of sex and intimacy. Her area of expertise is reviving sexual injury from affairs and helping couples make adaptations to their sexual connections as a results of chronic illness or just the regular effects of long term relationships and living a long life together.
Monica earned her Master's Degree From Washington University in St. Louis, Missouri with an emphasis on Family Therapy and Mental Health. Upon completion of that degree, she earned a Certificate in Sex Therapy from the University of Michigan. Combining those credentials with many years of experience intense Clinical Supervision, she earned her certification as a sex therapist through the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). She has pursued advanced training in research proven effective methods to treating couples such approaches for couples therapy, including Crucible™ Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) and Gottmann Methods.
Find her at:
https://www.crcmo.com/
https://jumpstartyourhearts.com
monicahouttuin.wordpress.com
www.facebook.com/CounselingWithMonica/
twitter.com/monicahouttuin
Episode 38
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Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed, a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist. You can talk to her about sex or other therapy needs at: www.therapistinstlouis.com
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