Kendra Holiday and David Wraith co-founded Sex Positive St. Louis. This group helps individuals around St. Louis find each other for events and education about sexual and relationship health.

Links to Find Sex Positive St. Louis:

https://plus.google.com/+SexPositiveSTL

@SexPositiveSTL on Twitter

Links to Find Kendra:

www.beopenandhonest.com

www.thebeautifulkind.com

@TBK365 on Twitter

Links to Find David:

https://davidwraith.com/

@DavidWraith on Twitter

About Us:

www.aboutsexpodcast.com 

Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. Her second book released in February. Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed. at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

Nikki Leigh is an award winning author who passionately shares her knowledge about coaching and relationships to help other people gain the life and love they deserve through her books, coaching and her radio show. She is a love coach and host of Ready for Love Radio.

Links to Reach Nikki:

http://www.readyforloveradio.com

http://www.lovecoachjourney.com

https://www.facebook.com/AreYouReadyForLove

About Us:

www.aboutsexpodcast.com 

Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. Her second book released in February. Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed. at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

This week, our guest is David Wraith, the co-founder of Sex Positive St. Louis. We have had him on before. In this episode, he talks with us a little bit about the death of his wife last year and the support he found in the polyamorous community. We also talk about #metoo, BDSM, mommy issues, pissing (water sports), male chastity, sex work, and the beautiful older women he has sexual relationships with. In one story, he tells us about his sexual relationship with Betty Dodson, an 89 year old woman. She is well known among sex educators for manually teaching women to orgasm that had never experienced it. We hope you enjoy this week's episode.

David Wraith is a street walking cheetah with a heart full of napalm, he is "The Do You Guru," and "The Hardest Working Man in Ho Business." He is co-founder of Sex Positive St. Louis and the HNIC at Planet Wraith 

• Website URL davidwraith.com, sexstl.com, 
• Blog URL davidwraith.com
• Facebook URL https://www.facebook.com/planetwraith/,
•  https://www.facebook.com/davidwraith
• Twitter Name @davidwraith

About Us:

www.aboutsexpodcast.com 

Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. Her second book released in February. Joshua is not a therapist. He is an author and writer and brings a sense of humor along with an inquisitive mind.

Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed. at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

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Sex Addiction isn't real. Sex is real. Porn is real. Some other words that are real include diversity, fetus, vulnerable, science-based, evidence-based, entitlement, and transgender. Yes, transgendered people are real. This week it seems the Trump administration decided that these seven words don’t exist and should not be used by the CDC. Whether or not this ban is real, political leaders have been doing this as long as we have had scientific research.

Misinformation about reality, or the censoring of reality, can be harmful. Myths about sex can make it difficult for people to feel normal in their sexuality. If they are told that their biological urges are sinful or weird, they can feel a split between sex and themselves. They can see sex as something outside the normal human experience or even outside of their own control. If we as humans label something as uncontrollable, then we may fail to even try to have control over it.

Sex addiction is not a real addiction listed in the most recent edition of the DSM, the bible of mental health diagnosis. These individual’s struggles are a failure of logic brought on by shameful views of their own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. People who self-label as sex addicts have the same amount of sex as people who do not. People who claim to have this addiction feel the need to hold themselves to a standard beyond the normal human condition. They feel amorous, they feel love, they feel horny, and yet they deny these feelings and push them down to hide and deny their own sexuality. They not only feel uncomfortable just talking about sex in a social setting, but can sometimes feel uncomfortable even discussing these topics with their sexual partners. They can literally be having sex with their partner and feel super uncomfortable just discussing birth control and condom usage.

Our guest today is clinical psychologist Dr. David J. Ley, Ph.D. and the author of the books Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure, The Myth of Sex Addiction and Insatiable Wives. I also just found out he has a black belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. What the hell? That's awesome. To me, he sounds like the Jason Bourne of the clinical psychology world, saving people from myths and misinformation about sex and relationships. Our discussion with him covers the myths of sex addiction, porn, the CDC’s list of banned words, and so much more.

 

David J. Ley PhD (@DrDavidLey) on Twitter

About Us:

Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. She is a published author, with her second book releasing in February.

About Sex now livestreams episodes on Facebook a week before the podcast episodes come out. Check us out at our new YouTube Channel. // Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com // Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed., a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

Also, we have facebooks and twitters and all that stuff, but if you read this far i seriously doubt you have time to read any more.

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Have you ever wondered what it's like to have an open relationship? What the heck does that even mean and are people really doing this? According to our guest, many people are trying this and learning from each other in the process. 

Kevin Patterson runs a facebook page all about open relationships. On his page, he asks fellow poly people to share their positive and their negative stories. Aparently, we are humans who are capable of making mistakes-regardless of whether we are in a monogamous or a poly relationship. 

Rather than throwing the baby out with the bath water, why not learn from your mistakes or learn from the mistakes of others?

Our guest this week is an amazing and interesting person that joined us via the telephone. Hopefully the sound holds up. We hope you enjoy listening as much as we enjoyed recording it. Enjoy!

About Our Guest:

Kevin Patterson of Poly Role Models

Kevin is the curator of the interview series blog Poly Role Models. It’s part of an effort to fix the lack of diversity with which ethical non-monogamy is typically represented. The blog has spun into speaking engagements across the country about the intersection of race and polyamory. Kevin hopes his efforts change the landscape in regards to the creation of inclusive environments.

Kevin's book "Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities" releases on March 30th. He is currently trying to crowdsource funds for a book tour.

http://polyrolemodels.tumblr.com

https://www.facebook.com/polyrolemodels/

@PolyRoleModels

About Us:

Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. She is a published author, with her second book releasing in February.

We are now livestreaming episodes on YouTube a week before the podcast episodes come out. If you just can't wait to listen, the livestream goes out a week before the podcast releases. Check us out at our new YouTube Channel. // Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com // Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed., a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

Also, we have facebooks and twitters and all that stuff, but if you read this far i seriously doubt you have time to read any more.

Facebook: Angela Skurtu LMFT, M. Ed, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist // Joshua Skurtu