Top Ten Reasons Men Avoid Therapy

July 27th, 2017

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Why do men avoid therapy? Why do men avoid going to marriage therapy or sex therapy or any kind of therapy at all? It won't work! It costs too much! It eats into my beaver damn restoration projects! We delve deep into the psyche of men to try to better understand why they just do NOT want to go to therapy, at all costs, even going so far as to getting a divorce before they step foot in a therapists office. 

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Sexual Surrogate Kendra Holliday Joins us again to discuss Polyamory, Masculinity, and anything Kinky

July 23rd, 2017

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Some people marry for love. Some people marry for money. Some people do not marry and instead have a more fluid relationship dynamic that involves multiple sexual partners. Kendra Holliday joins us again with her partner Matthew, this time to discuss their unique relationship that involves polyamory, BDSM and oooohhh so much more. These two have a lot of interesting things to say about how they are successful as a couple. We hope you can join us for this week's episode.

 

About out guests:

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In this episode we speak with Kendra Holliday, a sexual surrogate and her partner Matthew. Kendra describes herself as a passionate bisexual sexplorer when it comes to kinks, fetishes, BDSM, swinging, sex work, and polyamory. She is also a mother, daughter, sister, friend and volunteer.

Kendra is a 44 year old woman located in St. Louis, MO and is the Editor of The Beautiful Kind, her personal blog. She is also co-founder of Sex Positive St. Louis. She has a professional consulting site Be Open and Honest, where she offers sex and relationship advice and sex surrogacy services (talking and hands on intimacy).

Her life experiences include monogamous marriage, divorce, sex work, parenthood, as well as being fired and sued for her sexuality. A nudist and sex-positive activist, she is in a polyamorous BDSM relationship with her long-term partner, Matthew.

 

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Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed, a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist. You can talk to her about sex or other therapy needs at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

Photo credited to Carrie Meyer of Insomniac Studio.

 
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Sex Surrogacy with Special Guest Kendra Holliday

July 16th, 2017

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Sexual dysfunction can be very deflating. Or is it defeating? I think both work. Either way, disabilities or dysfunctions that negatively affect your sex life can be difficult to live with. Some people are able to work with their doctors or work with talk therapists to solve these problems. Others need more a more "hands on" approach. That's where sexual surrogates like Kendra Holliday can help.

For someone not in a relationship, someone without a sexual partner, having a sexual dysfunction means any time they try to date or begin a relationship they might feel like they have an asterisk attached to their sex lives. Not only do these individuals have to deal with the dysfunction itself, but they also have to deal with any shame or other "feelings" humans have when it comes to sex. It's hard enough to find a mate without an asterisk.**

Sexual surrogates give these individuals an outlet to work through, manage, or even cure what ails them, asterisks be damned! Surrogates like Kendra Holliday create a safe space for these people to heal. A place free of shame, judgement, and one that fosters positive views on human sexuality. 

 

About our Guests:

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In this episode we speak with Kendra Holliday, a sexual surrogate and her partner Matthew. Kendra describes herself as a passionate bisexual sexplorer when it comes to kinks, fetishes, BDSM, swinging, sex work, and polyamory. She is also a mother, daughter, sister, friend and volunteer.

Kendra is a 44 year old woman located in St. Louis, MO and is the Editor of The Beautiful Kind, her personal blog. She is also co-founder of Sex Positive St. Louis. She has a professional consulting site Be Open and Honest, where she offers sex and relationship advice and sex surrogacy services (talking and hands on intimacy).

Her life experiences include monogamous marriage, divorce, sex work, parenthood, as well as being fired and sued for her sexuality. A nudist and sex-positive activist, she is in a polyamorous BDSM relationship with her long-term partner, Matthew.

 

Episode 40

 

Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com

Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed, a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist. You can talk to her about sex or other therapy needs at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

 **Josh's note: Josh wishes no ill feelings toward any asterisks or other punctuation marks, but he is still not on speaking terms with the ampersand.

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Married to a Sex Therapist, OMG and more! Guest Monica Houttuin joins us again,

July 9th, 2017

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How can I love thee? Let me count the ways... Three? Is that all? I probably need to do better than that. Let me see, there is poking, rubbing, spitting. That's love, right?

Luckily, I'm married to a sex therapist. I'm sure she can help. This week we talk about being married to a sex therapist and we also cover how sex therapists can help us talk about sex.

 

About our Guest: 

Monica Houttuin, LCSW, CST at Counseling Rediscovering Connections

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Monica is a Couples and Intimacy Specialist, Certified Sex Therapist and Educator.

She works in private practice in Union Missouri and specializes working with couples struggling with issues of sex and intimacy.  Her area of expertise is reviving sexual injury from affairs and helping couples make adaptations to their sexual connections as a results of chronic illness or just the regular effects of long term relationships and living a long life together.

Monica  earned her Master's Degree From Washington University in St. Louis, Missouri with an emphasis on Family Therapy and Mental Health.  Upon completion of that degree, she earned a Certificate in Sex Therapy from the University of Michigan. Combining those credentials with many  years of experience intense Clinical Supervision, she earned her certification as a sex therapist through the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). She has pursued advanced training in research proven effective methods to treating couples such  approaches for couples therapy, including Crucible™ Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) and Gottmann Methods.

Find her at:  

https://www.crcmo.com/

https://jumpstartyourhearts.com 

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www.facebook.com/CounselingWithMonica/

twitter.com/monicahouttuin

 

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Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com

Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed, a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist. You can talk to her about sex or other therapy needs at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

 

References:

https://www.omgyes.com/en/how-it-works#/pricing

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Five Dimensions of Touch on About Sex - Special Guest Monica Houttuin

July 2nd, 2017

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You let off the brake, slam it into first gear, and pop the clutch full throttle. The engine roars to life, your tires screaming into the void. There may be something out there, other people, cars, ironic t-shirts, but while you hold that wheel and feel that engine rumble to life you become one with the car.

You shift to second gear, and another chorus roars to life. Third gear, you can feel the force in your chest as you accelerate. Fourth gear, the signs on the side of the road start to seem like streaks of color passing you by. When you finally hit fifth gear, the tachometer makes its final ascent and you pass into what feels like another dimension.

In this episode of About Sex, we discuss how couples can shift into different gears through the five dimensions of touch. You shift through Affectionate, Sensual, Playful, Erotic, and finally Intercourse. Join us for this and much more with our special guest Monica Houttuin, who is also a sex therapist. That's right, two sex therapists in the room. What could go wrong? :)

 

 

About our Guest: 

Monica Houttuin, LCSW, CST at Counseling Rediscovering Connections

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Monica is a Couples and Intimacy Specialist, Certified Sex Therapist and Educator.

She works in private practice in Union Missouri and specializes working with couples struggling with issues of sex and intimacy.  Her area of expertise is reviving sexual injury from affairs and helping couples make adaptations to their sexual connections as a results of chronic illness or just the regular effects of long term relationships and living a long life together.

Monica  earned her Master's Degree From Washington University in St. Louis, Missouri with an emphasis on Family Therapy and Mental Health.  Upon completion of that degree, she earned a Certificate in Sex Therapy from the University of Michigan. Combining those credentials with many  years of experience intense Clinical Supervision, she earned her certification as a sex therapist through the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). She has pursued advanced training in research proven effective methods to treating couples such  approaches for couples therapy, including Crucible™ Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) and Gottmann Methods.

Find her at:  

 

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Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com

Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed, a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist. You can talk to her about sex or other therapy needs at: www.therapistinstlouis.com

 

References:

McCarthy; Shifting Gears; https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/whats-your-sexual-style/201205/shifting-gears

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